Words

A thought dawned on me today while I was in my room; it is absolutely amazing how easily we forget that everyone is human. Think about it, the little thoughts of judgement that run through your head throughout the day, is sickening. We are so quick to judge even if we don't say it aloud. And when we do say it aloud? The amount of hurt human beings cause one another is unfathamoble when we really think about it.

I have a new approach to how I desire to speak to people: imagine what you are saying is the last words that person will ever hear. When you think about it in that sense, even if you only have a slight conscience of right and wrong, you will be prompted to speak more good than evil. We all face our daily battles, but if what we say and think can take the burden off of someone or not add more of a burden, what do we have to lose?

Marriage

My sociology class discussed recently if marriage will even exist in the generations to come. With sex becoming less and less tabu in society, and that being a main reason people were married in previous generations, many find the means of getting married..well..unnecessary.

Previously marriage was seen as a sacred union between a man and a woman. Now, with divorce rates in the U.S skyrocketing, most people don't see the point in saying "I do" when the odds are set against them. So what does this mean for those of us who still believe in marriage and hope to have that one day? Well, seems like finding others like us is going to be one hell of an expedition. Less young people are interested in saying vows, and it seems like marriage is just going to disappear.

Socioeconomic status

So in my last post I discussed how our parents influence the people we become. With that said it prompted me to think of the socioeconomic status of our parents and how that influences the offspring's career and economic place. Lets be honest here; it's rare that people who came from the bottom of the totem pole rise to the top and become very powerful, wealthy and successful. Most of us end up like our parents. Those who come from wealth are more likely to follow in the footsteps of their parents because of connections and that "push" they are often given when growing up.

As for those who are consider to be in poverty; they end up that way for the same reason. Many people are in poverty because of spontaneous spending and irresponsibility, or addictions to drugs or alcohol. Unfortunately the behavior of the parents greatly effects the child's place in the socioeconomic realm.

It's all about leading my example. But there are some who break these molds and I plan to be one of them. My parents are at the lower end of the spectrum when it comes to wealth status, and I plan to not be that way. Their situation is unique in the sense it was a mixture of that financial irresponsibility and the misfortunes and bad luck of the world we live in. Regardless of how they came to where they are they are working to improve and I plan to do the same. I know what it's like to be a member of that lower class, and it is not what I want for my adult life or for my future children to grow up in.

Nature or Nurture

Certain aspects of our personality definitely come from the strengths or qualities that our parents lack. Lately I've been feeling like I always want to prove to myself that I am not like my parents; the parts of them that I feel aren't ideal or something that people should be like. My mother always says she's nothing like her mother even though she acts just like her more and more everyday, and that's not a good thing. Are we doomed to be like our parents for the most part? Is it more biological than psychological? Maybe nature is more dominant than nature. What I've realized is the more I try to not  be like the bad qualities of my parents, the more I become like that, and that scares me.

Maybe trying is the part where the failing comes in. We should just let whatever happens happen and not try so hard. The more I think about it, the more angry I get and the more I fail. I don't think we are doomed to be like our parents if we don't want to. Maybe that's what finding out who you are is. Taking the strengths of your parents and not inheriting their weaknesses; that's when you find out who you are.